The people pleaser in me wants to tell all of you that one, you are amazing and I appreciate all of your kindness, two I am not always available to respond to you, and three, I am never ignoring you. Now, nothing has really happened that has made me feel the need to tell you all this but, I have noticed I have been getting text, calls and emails at all hours of the day and night.
Outside of all of this I have a pretty full life that keeps me busy. I try very hard to devote my time to those around me while I am in their presence which means not being on my phone constantly and being present. This is still a work in progress and I am trying every single day to get better at it. I have been around people who are constantly tied to their work phone. They never put it down, never turn it off, and are never without it. You know how that made me feel? Not very important, cared for or wanted. It made me feel like the person doing it cared more about making money than they did being in the moment with me. I never want to make anyone feel that way, and I hate to admit it, but I am sure that I am guilty of it from time to time.
So, if you are reading this and you have felt ignored by me in the past, please know that is not the case. In fact, I read all of the messages and emails that I receive when I get free time. However, I have a policy that I abide by for the privacy of those who contact me. If I cannot respond to you within an hour of you contacting me, I will not respond at all. When I am unavailable, I do keep on an auto reply that lets people know that I am not available. Now, I am not faulting anyone of those who reach out when I am not available and I am certainly not saying that you cannot do it, I just do not want you to be upset if you do not get a response.
I love when people reach out to me, it makes me feel cared for and wanted, but I am not available 24/7 to respond to people who contact me. So, if you are texting, calling, or emailing me at midnight, you will never get a response. Additionally, if you are contacting me Saturday or Sunday, there is a very high chance I will not respond. So, when reaching out, just keep that info in the back of your mind so you have it. Thank you all for your continued understanding. You are the greatest!
The perfect client, that title sounds like a horror movie on Lifetime Movie Network. Perfection, that's a big word to live up to. Perfection means to be free from any flaws or defects. I don't know about you, but I can't tell you a single person in my life or anyone I have met who is the definition of perfection. Truth be told no one is perfect, so to say "The Perfect Client" is a bit misleading so, let's go with "The Ideal Client" Shall we?
Full disclaimer, my idea of the "Ideal Client" is my opinion and may not match the opinion of others. Sometimes I feel that clients think in order to be perfect they need to bring gifts, be in shape, be young, or highly attractive, but the truth is none of those things will make you the perfect or ideal client. They are not important and have no bearing on whether or not I would want to see you. In fact, I have seen people who were all of those things, yet they were not my ideal client. So, how can you be everything I want if those things don't matter?
R-E-S-P-E-C-T find out what it means to me... Ok be honest did you sing that as you read it? Respect is what it's all about. This starts from the first time you contact me, and continues till you walk out the door. I love it when clients visit my website and get all the information they need before contacting me. Now, this is not a necessity, but it is preferred. When you do contact me, be nice, avoid any vulgar talk, and follow through with the conversation, which means don't ghost me. If I do get the pleasure of meeting you in person, SHOW UP, be on time, be prepared with the required fee, and most important of all RESPECT my boundaries. If I say no to something, don't push it, and please be kind and courteous.
My expectations are very easy to live up to, and if you notice, I didn't mention anything about looks, gifts or anything of the sort. At the end of the day I just want the people I meet to be happy with their encounter with me, and I want to feel safe and respected. Follow these simple steps and at the end of the session we will both be happy!